Worthy and Willing: Forming Boys Who Will Want to Marry
March 27, 2026
The Heights School takes a distinctive approach to the formation of boys and young men: “Heights parents and faculty work together to form boys into the type of men they would want their daughters to marry.”1 This idea is a guiding principle found in the headmaster’s open house speeches, in HeightsCast episodes going back a decade, and even in the Student-Parent Handbook.
What kind of man is this? This is the kind of man who is willing to put the needs and desires of his wife and children before his own. This is the kind of man who has become not only capable of but also familiar with self-sacrifice. The kind of man we have in mind is a prudent man, steeped in wisdom, who is willing to put in hard work for his wife and family in order to provide for their temporal, corporeal, intellectual, moral, and spiritual needs. This man understands that love is not merely a feeling but a vocation which will involve the resolve of his will and to which he will respond with his whole heart, a calling that will involve his whole self and the whole of his life. Moreover, throughout his time at The Heights, this kind of man will have experienced the joy that comes from a sincere gift of himself in service to his friends, his family, and the community and society at large. A man such as this is also precisely the type of man we would want to become leaders in our communities, businesses, parishes, and schools.
